Confessions of a MoM (Mother of Multiples)

There has been a baby boom where I work which made me start having baby envy. I even asked Tony what he thought about another one. (He looked at me like I was crazy). I then asked him, "Don’t you think we have missed out on so much having triplets and just trying to survive the days and not really enjoying them?"  (He still looked at me like I was crazy).  

Having triplets is a blessing but some days I can’t help but feel like it is a curse as well.

I really don’t know what it is like to be pregnant. Lying on my side from weeks 19-27 in hopes that I could keep the girls cooking was miserable. I have no clue how big I got or what I looked like since I was confined to a bed all day. I don’t really know what labor was like because as soon as it started the second time I delivered  two hours later via C-section.

I don’t know what breast feeding is like because the two times I tried it the girls stopped breathing so we had to do bottles only.

I don’t know what it is like to hold a baby right after birth since mine lived in incubators and we weren’t able to hold them for the first three days.

Not the start of motherhood that I had imagined.

They were so small I was nervous holding them.

Can you other MoMs out there understand what I am feeling?

Most mom’s of singletons can tell you their child(ren)’s birth stats, when they started crawling, their first step, their first word, etc. I can give you a ball park but I can’t keep them all straight now that it is in the past. 

Do mom’s of singletons count down the hours till their babies go to bed so they can have some time to themselves in a QUIET house? Do they stress about what to do all weekend to keep from losing their minds? Do they feel confined to their house because it is too much work to take their children out in public?

Some days, I feel like I am missing out on so many developmental changes that the girls go through. I want to be able to enjoy those moments but it’s hard when three toddlers are vying for my attention. Some days I can barely keep my head above water and wish the days away. It is hard to have one on one time with the girls and when I do I feel like I need to tidy the house, or run errands. I am saddened that the first two years of their life are a blur. 

We can reach the sink!  How did they get this big?

With all that being said I get to experience things mom’s of singletons do not. High fives and clapping when their sisters go potty, the girls giving each other hugs or pats on the backs when they are upset, bedtime routine where they give each other hugs and kisses, getting home and having three girls come running to me for hugs….

This makes my heart happy. I hope they will always be friends.

Let's play doctor and make mom and dad worry about paying for undergrad AND medical school for three girls.

Sisterly love.

Snuggle time . . . Listen, they are all quiet.

Good night kisses.

With all the battles the grls have overcome, we are blessed to have three healthy girls.  Tony and I joke that we would be so bored if we had just one. Yes our life is cautious (sometimes organized) and I couldn’t imagine it any other way. 

I am so thankful that we have blogged since before they were born, so I can read back through all our memories and see how far we have come. I look forward to the day when we transform our blog into a book and I can sit with the girls and tell them about my pregnancy and how mommy and daddy managed to raise three beautiful, healthy girls.